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Maybe you know this feeling: You accomplish something. You get the praise. You're doing all the "right" things on the outside.
And then, in the quiet afterward, there's this subtle drop in your belly. An ache in your chest. A kind of hollowness.
A voice comes in—not yelling, sometimes just certain: "Don't get comfortable. Don't mess this up. If they really knew me, they'd leave."
If that's familiar, here's a gentle truth: that voice isn't proof you're broken. It's a protector—a part of you that learned to keep you safe through criticism and perfectionism.
In this post, we explore how presence (not force) can help even your harshest parts soften. Includes a guided practice: The Glimpse Practice.
If you've ever thought "I know the theory, but I can't live it when life hits," this podcast was made for you. IFS Enlightenment Snacks is my way of offering small, consistent touchpoints that help you unblend, soften your nervous system, and reconnect with Self energy—in the middle of your actual day.
Somatic IFS: a new therapeutic modality that blends principles of somatic therapy--like movement, touch, and breathwork--with the traditional tools of the Internal Family Systems framework.
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Have you ever returned to a place that shaped you and felt, all at once, deeply rooted and impossibly far away?
This month's practice invites you to step outside under the night sky and ask: "Which part of me is longing for belonging right now?"
In IFS terms, your Self-energy—calm, curious, compassionate—is the healing agent. Befriending the parts that long (instead of pushing them away) is the tending.
Inside this newsletter:
A personal story from Big Sur about belonging and rootedness
A 6-step somatic IFS practice (accessible, doable tonight)
Why Self-energy matters in parts work
Current teaching: IFS Annual Conference & LifeArchitect training
Ways to deepen: retreat, podcast, 1:1 sessions
Try it tonight. Notice what arises. No fixing required.